Question by jbaby3306: feel like i owe him/truly f’in hate him now…?
So… I was raised in a abusive house… when i was about 14 i began talking to this guy on the web. He was my “bf”- truly a lot more like a finest friend. He helped me get through some challenging stuff… my mom becoming beaten by her husband… and me becoming beaten by him.
This went on for about two years… till he convinced me it was time for me to get out…. I lastly got up the courage to go to my school and tell them. (he pushed me a lot and that helped)
at some point i got out of the house and went to live with my grandfather. A handful of months later we “broke up” got back together “broke up” more than and over again.
This truly hurt me, but i kinda knew it was coming, and to be truthful in a way i was kinda glad to see it end.
When i was about 17 i began dating this guy that i have known since i was about 13 or 14 (we were just buddies but lost speak to for a extended time, and then regained speak to when i was 17 and started dating)…. so, me and him date for a lengthy time, eventually (me now 21) got married actualyl aobut 2 months ago.
i have a great relationship and i adore my husband much more than anything in the planet.
However i locate i nonetheless talk to this other guy occasionally, dont get the wrong thought i have no feelings for this guy at all…but what it truly boils down to is that i uncover myself keeping in contact (talking to him 1x every 1-three months) primarily simply because i really feel like i owe him something for helping me out of that circumstance…
So, anywho… the much more i talk to him at all now the a lot more i just fucking hate him… every thing about him… he used to be like an wonderful individual, or possibly i just didnt see how a lot of a douche bag he was reguardless he definately has changed a lot.
he was the nice virgin guy stright arrowed caring etc…
now he lays with anything he can get (which is almost certainly not significantly anyway) smokes often, drinks reg… etc and so forth i could go on and on but i believe you get the point
anywho, it appears like he only talks to me now when he requirements/wants somethign…
mainly often asking for cash or something connected to cash anyway…
he often makes little comments like:
“what running low on the hundreds of thousands”
or “i have no sympathy for you, im attempting to barrow x quantity for x from a person”
like, i know me and my husband are young and much more nicely off then the typical but i just discover these comments quite offensive… (the second a single was in reguards to me tlaking about how we just had a automobile accident and due to our injuries we havent been in a position to operate much)
and then yesterday he tells me he wants to run a organization proposal past me and my husband so i say okay because i didnt want to just dismiss him and be a douche.
so… he sends me the company “program” which consisted of basically a schedule of when the organization would be open and a layoutof the developing… ooo and some of the peoples “links of articles” that hed be operating with that “volunteered” to aid him.
his brilliant thought that he asked me to invest 50k into is a haunted residence? he then proceeded to tell me how he would pay me back the 50k inside 2 weeks of the place becoming open and a “gift” of 10k additional also within 2 weeks of becoming opened.
my initial response was that it could work but i dont believe that it would and thanks for thinking of us but were not interested… but he proceeded to push it so i told him that going into a business with the assumption that your going to make 50k in the 1st 2 weeks of pure profits is a vasssstttt over estimate. (not includding that his organization thought is crap)
then his defense to that was “nicely we will”
also i forgot to mention if the enterprise went belly up it would essentially be “o nicely” since him and his “business partner” are both unemployed.
obviously i know i was right for turning this “company chance” down – honestly sounded more like a scam to me.
but to be truthful im much more pissed that he fucking asked me in the initial spot. to ask an individual you dont even speak to on a typical basis for 50k?
and also on top of that a couple days ago, he texts me saying hi and “i miss tlaking to you often” like wtf its just truly pissed me off given that its blantly fucking obvious that he just made the work to talk to me to attempt an get me to “invent” in some doomed to fail bs organization….
i truly want to just bitch him the hell out… am i incorrect? what would you do?what should i do?
he basically stated that he understands that he helped me out of that scenario… which is why i pretty significantly stayed friedns with him thus far.
- but after him pushing his “company notion” tonight he basically mentioned to cut him loose simply because its not worth it. whilst i agree but nonetheless kinda feel negative… guess its just realising the reality that hes not the guy he once was…. its saddening.
i just wanted to get some outsiders opinions just before i end up exploding on him… since its pretty much at the point where i just wanna scream at him
Answer by Rachel
I do not care what he did in the past — a individual who keeps in touch with you just to guilt you into giving him cash isn’t a buddy at all. If he cared about you, he wouldn’t be placing you in a scenario exactly where you could shed 50K with no genuine intention of paying it back. I do not know what his issue is and why he changed like that, but there’s absolutely nothing you can do for him. He’s dead weight, so cut him loose. Your number one priority (next to oneself) really should be your husband anyway. What does your husband think? That’s a person who almost certainly understands the scenario better than us and would have your greatest interest at heart. Possibly you two ought to pow wow about it. Very best of luck.
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Question by jbaby3306: as soon as very best buddy/now i hate him?
So… I was raised in a abusive home… when i was about 14 i started out talking to this guy online. He was my “bf”- truly much more like a best buddy. He helped me get by way of some tough stuff… my mom becoming beaten by her husband… and me being beaten by him.
This went on for about 2 years… till he convinced me it was time for me to get out…. I finally got up the courage to go to my school and inform them. (he pushed me a lot and that helped)
ultimately i got out of the home and went to live with my grandfather. A couple of months later we “broke up” got back with each other “broke up” more than and more than once more.
This truly hurt me, but i kinda knew it was coming, and to be honest in a way i was kinda glad to see it finish.
When i was around 17 i started dating this guy that i have recognized considering that i was about 13 or 14 (we had been just close friends but lost speak to for a extended time, and then regained make contact with when i was 17 and started dating)…. so, me and him date for a lengthy time, eventually (me now 21) got married actualyl aobut two months ago.
i have a great connection and i adore my husband more than anything at all in the planet.
Even so i find i nonetheless speak to this other guy occasionally, dont get the incorrect notion i have no feelings for this guy at all…but what it genuinely boils down to is that i locate myself keeping in get in touch with (talking to him 1x each and every 1-three months) mainly since i feel like i owe him some thing for helping me out of that situation…
So, anywho… the far more i talk to him at all now the more i just ******* hate him… every thing about him… he employed to be like an amazing individual, or maybe i just didnt see how significantly of a douche bag he was reguardless he definately has changed a lot.
he was the good virgin guy stright arrowed caring etc…
now he lays with anything he can get (which is almost certainly not significantly anyway) smokes frequently, drinks reg… and so on etc i could go on and on but i feel you get the point
anywho, it appears like he only talks to me now when he requirements/wants somethign…
mainly usually asking for funds or one thing related to cash anyway…
he often tends to make little comments like:
“what running low on the hundreds of thousands”
or “i have no sympathy for you, im attempting to barrow x amount for x from an individual”
like, i know me and my husband are young and a lot more nicely off then the average but i just find these comments really offensive… (the second one particular was in reguards to me tlaking about how we just had a vehicle accident and due to our injuries we havent been able to function much)
and then yesterday he tells me he wants to run a company proposal past me and my husband so i say okay since i didnt want to just dismiss him and be a douche.
so… he sends me the company “plan” which consisted of generally a schedule of when the business would be open and a layoutof the constructing… ooo and some of the peoples “links of articles” that hed be operating with that “volunteered” to assist him.
his brilliant notion that he asked me to invest 50k into is a haunted property? he then proceeded to inform me how he would spend me back the 50k within 2 weeks of the spot becoming open and a “gift” of 10k further also inside 2 weeks of getting opened.
my initial response was that it could work but i dont consider that it would and thanks for thinking of us but were not interested… but he proceeded to push it so i told him that going into a business with the assumption that your going to make 50k in the first 2 weeks of pure profits is a vasssstttt more than estimate. (not includding that his company idea is crap)
then his defense to that was “properly we will”
also i forgot to mention if the company went belly up it would basically be “o well” given that him and his “organization partner” are both unemployed.
obviously i know i was correct for turning this “company opportunity” down – honestly sounded far more like a scam to me.
but to be sincere im far more pissed that he ******* asked me in the 1st location. to ask an individual you dont even speak to on a regular basis for 50k?
and also on best of that a couple days ago, he texts me saying hi and “i miss tlaking to you sometimes” like wtf its just actually pissed me off because its blantly ******* clear that he just made the effort to talk to me to try an get me to “invent” in some doomed to fail bs company….
i truly want to just ***** him the hell out… am i wrong? what would you do?what must i do?
Answer by sarah hezdx
you dont owe him anytihng. just let him go. if you dont wanna be friends with him anymore just ignore him dont txt him back or something. he might have helped yu a lot and im so sorry you had to go thru tht but yu still dont owe him anything.
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Question by Dr. Donna: Maid of Honor Concerns?
Lately I’ve observed some what of an “issues” with my MOH. I am just going to make a brief list of some of these troubles…
1) My future mother-in-law is planning a bridal shower for my fiance’s hometown (we are from two distinct cities and we are obtaining married in his city). My MOH was hesitant to commit to the date – saying “I will pencil it in here, I hope nothing comes up”. As if something much more important would come up?! She often over commits/volunteers herself to perform/club/social activities and I am worried that if a thing from a single of her clubs/social activities comes up that weekend she’ll later say she can not make it.
two) A single bridesmaid is flying in from a different city for the shower in my hometown (and we are having the bachlorette party that night as properly so we can all be together for both occasions). I asked my MOH to pick her up at the airport because she lives/operates much closer to the airport than any one particular of my BM (like two hours closer). She agreed but more lately I mentioned her flight might not get in till 9pm due to the fact of her perform schedule – and my MOH dismissed her duties in picking her up saying she doesn’t think she’ll be able to do it now simply because it does not “work out” with her function schedule due to the fact she gets off at 6pm and was preparing to drive to my hometown right after for the shower and if she had to wait to pick her up at the airport at 9 she wouldn’t get to my hometown until 11:30pm/12am. Am I supposed to just go choose up my BM since my MOH is too busy or inconvenienced by this?
three)Since I am getting my wedding out of town, I asked the girls to be here Thursday afternoon to start decorating the hall – so we are not overwhelmed Friday and can get pleasure from the rehersal. She agreed saying it would be fine at 1st. Then when I scheduled her trial hair appt at 3pm on Thursday for her she stated “I don’t assume I can make it there that early since I’ll have to take off operate to get there in time and I don’t want to use up my holiday days simply because one thing may come up that I could go on a trip someplace”. No plans set – but she does not want to use a holiday day for my wedding simply because a “vacation opportunity” may possibly come up? !
4) She currently has my shower date set and when I called her to ask her to be positive to involve my aunts in helping strategy the shower she sort of flipped out on me and was like “I have to write two reports, and write my thesis and I volunteered to do X Y and Z…..and I just do not have time to call men and women about this” I just seems like eveytime I ask her do assist with some thing with the wedding she says one thing to this effect. I don’t understand why she continues to volunteer herself to do so numerous issues and can not assist me out every now and then. Each and every time we met for BM dresses it had to be around “her schedule” and what was convenient for her – which was really difficult to come up with something at all.
My MOH is my very best friend in life – EVER. We have been BFF’s given that preschool and now I guess I am just hurt. When she does these items I do not really get mad, it just hurts my feelings. I know if this was for her wedding I genuinely would be placing myself out there for her and I do not feel like I am obtaining that in return. She has a severe job and I recognize she has other obligations other than me and my wedding 24/7. But do I have a correct to be hurt right here? Its frustrating because she will go along with issues and then I ask her to execute a activity and it’s not at her convenience she says “she’s to busy”? Any guidance to cheer me up?
On a side note, these are the only duties I have asked of my MOH to the date. I have accomplished all preparing on my personal and only have asked for opinions of things via e-mail/phone.
Answer by hu_yana
speak to her. perhaps she is over whelmed…. Yes there are things she ought to do for you to aid you out but she is you maid of honor not your servant.
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Question by DudeWhat: What do you wish you would have completed in life and how are you producing your future better?
What do you wish you would have done in life?
Since you can’t go back in time and change the past, what are you undertaking to make your future greater or to keep from feeling bad about missed opportunities/”what could have been”?
* I wish I had not been homeschooled
* I wish I had been a hs cheerleader
* I wish I would have dated in hs
* I wish I would have applied to Ivy League universities
* I wish I would have been more dedicated to my studies and extracurriculars
* I wish I would have volunteered more
* I wish I would have been a lot more dedicated to generating my dreams come true
What can I do to make my future much better?
Answer by smilingmick
I wish I went to University when I was younger… I have no other regrets.
My future feels quite brilliant and I am a pleased camper about it.
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Question by : What can I do to safeguard myself from a spouse that is attempting to divorce me in the course of a deployment?
I am a National Guardsman. I served in Iraq in 2004… all of 2004. My Iraq time vs. Iraq time now is significantly diffferent. I was Extremely opposed to my wife volunteering for a deployment to Iraq. Unfortunately, my wife is often searching for continuous approval from her mother. Her mother (an apex, alpha female) encouraged my wife into going on the deployment for the “employment chance” that it presents.
The deployment has been difficult for me and the mom has been continuously putting suggestions in my wife’s head not at all supportive of me. A few weeks ago, I received an e-mail that read, “I’ve decided to join the State Department and reside a life abroad operating in International Deplomacy”. I asked how I fit into that, and she stopped communicating with me. My wife then started telling her family members and pals that I was clingy and crazy. The a lot more I tried to save the marriage, the far more clingy and crazy I appeared. Last week, she hired an attorney and desires a divorce. I live in Virginia (i ought to almost certainly mention that fact).
When she departed on the deployment she left me with @15K in debt she had coming into the marriage. Throughout the entire deployment – now 4 months in, I have not received 1 dime from her. Her lawyer has ordered a protective order keeping me from the marital home and my wife’s property – actual and otherwise. I’ve also been told by her lawyer that I can not contact anybody in the military. (ummmm, I function for the military as a Department of the Army Civilian)
I’ve hired an lawyer. My question. WHAT THE FU#@ AM CAN I DO? I am extremely spiritual and have a lot of troubles with divorces as this will be my second. 1st divorce came after my deployment.
I want to save the marriage but I have mentally ready myself that it is more than. Nonetheless I am not conceding any of the spend and allowances that are due to me…. Please tell me what I can do.
Answer by Rose S.
I would really contemplate prayer and a lot of it. Be patient. It sounds like you are in a really rough spot. The only point I can say is pray. God can do anything and he hates divorce. God bless you. I hope it operates out.
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Question by LostSoul: She got into a PA school, I didn’t. With making use of my sources and expertise, I helped her alot with application?
We each applied to PA schools with the application service. It was her 1st time to apply and it was my 3rd time to apply. To become a great candidate for interview.. I told her to pass a CPR class and get a card.. take medical terminology… general chemistry I and II… I let her borrow my chemistry book, old exams and notes that she utilised for classes which she got an A (and I had a B)….
I let her to take more than my hospital volunteer position even though i was on vacation and she continued to volunteer when i came back..
On her own , behind my back, she known as her close friends like how they do when they applied for pharmacy schools and med schools,, and what interview concerns they were asked,,, and she had an individual to proofread her papers for application (she asked me if my brother-in-law – he’s a doc – if he could proofread hers when he does to mine, i told her no ) ,
but I regret to say that I did not get accepted to PA school..but she did and .. she did not invite me during the final minute of her going away party.. I did not go following all.. since I didn’t make it to school..
so she left for that school..
I had alot of sources to prepare for applying.. she was there by my side all the time .. we hung out together and all. and now .. she doens’t speak to me any longer. we did not have a fight or anything. we just disappear on every single other.
Did I make a mistake by helping her alot?
I stopped talking to her when she took a peek on my email and found “PA job possibilities” she asked to open it… I was curious also.. so I opened it.. She pulled out her paper and pen, and stated “You don’t mind if I copy that e mail address down do you? ” This was when she just got accepted in to the school and I didn’t. I felt like a loser in front of her..
Please suggest. Thanks.
Answer by qdougydoug
Wow, that sucks. You ought to post on www.fmylife.com. Very good for a cheer up.
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Question by jusme: Reverse Taxation, anyone up for it?
Suppose a group of ten men and women worked to receive a monetary reward of 100 dollars. Every person worked challenging and at the end of the day the cash was dispursed like this.
1 of you got 25 dollars
Two of you got a total of 45 dollars
Three of you got a total of 25 dollars
And 4 of you get a total of 5 dollars.
Now all of you worked the identical for the very same amount of time and however everybody didn’t get paid equally?
Is that right?
lets say 10 of you want to buy something for 100 dollars
A single of you forks up 25 dollars
Two of you fork up 45 dollars
Three of you fork up 25 dollars
4 of you fork up five dollars
Is either scenario FAIR? And lets say instaed of volunteering to get or give you had been forced to participate. Would that be fair?
Tax code s..ks, time to make it fair.
And for those of you thinking differently, and are on the left of the fence Would not making the tax codes even be what the Pres. desires to convey? “Level playing field”, “spread the income about”, “give everybody the same opportunities”?
Answer by Fakename
Liberals want to get votes. They dont care if its fair.
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Question by The Face of Democracy: Why is there a perception that the military is produced up of low earnings and much less educated? Facts prove opposite?
Their conclusions reveal that those volunteering for military service “…are drastically much more most likely to come from high-income neighborhoods than from low-income neighborhoods.” In truth, according to the report’s findings, only 11 percent of enlisted recruits final year came from the poorest quintile of neighborhoods. In contrast, the upper quintile of neighborhoods accounted for a full quarter of all enlisted recruits in 2007. Particularly, the report says, “Low-income neighborhoods were underrepresented amongst enlisted troops, while middle-class and high-income neighborhoods had been overrepresented.”
The report also discovered that today’s enlistees are more educated than their civilian counterparts, with just more than 1 percent lacking a high school diploma. The report says that much more than twenty percent of males in the 18-24 year old age bracket lack a diploma. According to the report, the military only allows 10 percent of enlisted volunteers to join with out a high school diploma.
In an additional obtaining that contradicts classic perceptions, the report concluded that minorities are not overrepresented in the military, except in the officer corps, exactly where African-Americans are overrepresented given their percentage of the U.S. population. The report says about 65 percent of new active duty recruits the past two years had been white, closely mirroring the percentage of whites in the U.S. population. Percentages of African-Americans amongst new recruits also mirrored the percentage of African-Americans in the population. The only exception was in the officer corps, where African-Americans had been overrepresented. That overrepresentation, however, was declining according to the report.
Geographically, the report says, military enlistees are “…disproportionately likely to come from the South, which is in line with the history of Southern military tradition.” Data presented in the report indicate that much more than 40 percent of new military recruits come from the South, a proportional overrepresentation, while the Northeast is underrepresented. The Midwest and West are reported to be “…roughly proportionally represented.”
Basically put, the report says, “The details do not help the belief that numerous American soldiers volunteer simply because society delivers them couple of other possibilities.” On the contrary, it would seem from the report’s findings that most military recruits are educated and decidedly middle to upper-middle class.
http://www.associatedcontent.com/write-up/976020/report_military_attracts_a lot more_high_pg2.html?cat=47
Answer by shortbus
because liberals keep telling us that blacks and minorities are not sensible enough to make it in the public sector so the only location for them is in the military.
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Question by mamame4: Son wants to get rehired as camp counselor?
My son interviewed and was hired to volunteer at camp this summer. He loved it and would like to go back again next summer. Any ideas on what he could do to boost his chances on becoming rehired at this popular camp? I was thinking he should write a “thank you for the opportunity” letter now that he has returned residence. What do you assume? Any ideas on what must be included in the letter?
Answer by Mr.Robot
Well writing a letter is absolutely not a bad notion. Maybe he need to tell them in the letter that he would adore to come back subsequent summer. I am sure the fact that he currently got the job as soon as will be a big support over the rest of the applicants. They currently know him, they know he’s not a creep and hopefully they know the kids like him =).
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Question by Opk: What’s a great TEFL (Teaching English overseas) program that’s not a scam?
I want to volunteer overseas teaching English or perhaps get a paying position but I see so a lot of of these “opportunities” are either truly scams that want to take your funds, or require a teaching degree. I’m 20 years old and have an associate’s degree in sociology. Any suggestions for a program in Asia or Latin America preferably?
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Answer by Joe Fonebone
Programs which promise you a job if you take their course are suspect. It implies that they will location any person (regardless of their skills) so they are not too choosy. Often they will put teachers in crappy schools just to fulfill their end of the bargain.
Considerably much better to find your own job by way of an advertisement or the like. If you are not qualified with a TESL Certificate then take 1 and some of those organisations like ICAL will supply aid with job placement (note the difference between providing assist with placement which is excellent and promising placement which is potentially poor).
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